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Introducing Sex Toys into the Bedroom

Introducing Sex Toys into the Bedroom

It could be that you’re looking to get your partner a gift this year or maybe you’re just interested in trying something a little different. But, when incorporating a new sex toy in your relationship, although sex toys can add a sense of spice to your relationship, there are many things to take into consideration as it can get a bit tricky. What may work wonderfully during a bit of me-time doesn’t always translate to that sought-after outer-body experience. There are oodles of rabbits, bullets, eggs and even wands out there for that adventurous woman……. but it’s few and far between that you find couples sex toys that keep leaving you both wanting more.

WHEN IS IT RIGHT TO INTRODUCE SEX TOYS INTO THE BEDROOM?

Wait until you’ve had a few rendezvous together and have built up a good level of trust both inside and out of the bedroom. You can help speed up the process by giving your partner lots of praise when he hits those pleasure spots – once he’s self-assured that he’s satisfying you sexually, proposing the idea of a sex toy to heighten both of your pleasure will be far better received.

EASE INTO THE CONVERSATION GENTLY

One way to ease the subject of sex toys into the conversation is to find some articles on sex toys and the amount of pleasure you can have with them, then introduce it to him by saying: “I found this interesting blog on how sex toys can be a lot of fun, have a read”. This allows you to see your partner’s reaction; it’ll also allow a discussion about sex toys to flow naturally between you. Another fun and popular way is to make it part of your pillow talk! (Start with, “I think it would be so hot to …” We’re sure you’ll find an appropriate end to that sentence.)

REASSURE YOUR MAN

The main thought that goes through a man’s head when this topic comes up is “Am I not good enough?”. It’s imperative to be able to explain why you’d like to introduce a sex toy. Make it clear that a sex toy is no substitute for the emotional closeness you feel when you are sexually intimate with him. The last thing you want him to feel is a sense of inadequacy. Focus on what you already love about him and reassure that big softie that it will help add even more fun and reach a new level of intimacy and as always, he’s your superhero!

SHOP FOR SEX TOYS TOGETHER

Shopping online at an online sex toy shop like Belle De Soir is a great chance for you and your partner to connect and discuss toys you may like. Being able to browse in the comfort of your own home will make it easier for you to talk openly about what you may like to try. Once you become accustomed to looking at different sex toys together it will be a lot of fun too! At the same time, this provides another opportunity for you to gauge how he feels towards it…. If your partner is intimidated by the thought of a toy “replacing him”, begin with toys that are less threatening: a small one that doesn’t look exactly like a penis may be a good introductory toy…… like the Flower Power Bullet.

LET YOUR PARTNER CONTROL YOUR PLEASURE

To avoid your partner seeing a sex toy as competition you can start off with a remote toy that lets him remain in control of your pleasure. It’ll be a very carnal experience for him to control the powerful sensations as he teases you to orgasm from a distance, plus he gets to feel he’s wearing the big boy pants.

WHAT WE SUGGEST

Last but not least, we’d like to put forward our thoughts for our favourite couple’s vibrators…… The infamous We Vibe Classic. Granted, it’s a bit of a mouth-full and sounds quite the opposite of a romantic gift, however…… unlike many other toys, it is one you wear. It’s Controlled by an App that can be easily downloaded on both IOs and Android devices, it can be controlled from anywhere in the world through Bluetooth and the app allows for you to facetime whilst doing it…..errr…. using it. With The We Vibe Classic, you can create and name your preferred vibration patterns, strength and duration, which makes for a smooth process of bringing him out mid-adult-cuddle.

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Does a sex toy brand matter to you?

Ten or twenty years ago, the idea of knowing what ‘brand’ of sex toy you were buying would have seemed a bit unusual. While you’d go for a particular type of toy there were few people who would seek out a particular brand.

Now, though, there’s much more variety in terms of sex toys, and many people have a preference for specific brands. Whether it’s the quality of the products, the innovation, or the style, many people prefer a particular brand when it comes to choosing the toys they really want. So what does each brand offer? Here are some of the top brands on Belle de Soir. Do you have a favourite?

Lelo

Lelo produces a huge range of sex toys and accessories, from rabbit vibrators such as the Lelo Soraya to silk cuffs and suede whips. Lelo is one of the more prestigious brands on the market – the company describes itself as a ‘designer’ brand, and if there were a Calvin Klein of sex toys, Lelo would probably be it.

As a result of their ‘designer’ aspirations, their products are a bit pricier than others, but they’re very high-quality, and seriously stylish.

Ovo

Like Lelo, Ovo also produces stylishly designed toys, and their brand focus is on innovation and really good engineering. They produce everything from cock rings to mini vibrators, and their design has won awards around the globe. Their products are generally lower budget than the Lelo ones, but they still have a serious focus on quality: all of their products come with a 15 year manufacturer’s warranty.

WeVibe

WeVibe is all about innovation. They have one key product, which is a sex toy that stimulates a woman both internally and externally at the same time, and it can also be used during sex. The standard WeVibe4 comes with a remote control, meaning that you can adjust the vibrations while you’re having sex.

But their most intriguing innovation is the WeVibe4 Plus – the same toy but it comes with both a remote control and an app. So not only can you control the pulse and pattern of vibrations from your phone, but it works across a long distance. If you’re in a long distance relationship, or even just down the road, and you want your partner to be able to turn you on at the push of a button, then the WeVibe4 Plus is for you!

Bondage brands

If you prefer your play a bit rough, you’ll probably be aware of a couple of bondage brands. The top three on Belle de Soir are Fetish Fantasy,  and Fifty Shades of Grey.

After the success of the blockbuster book, it was surely inevitable that there’d be a range of ‘Fifty Shades’ sex toys. The toys are aimed at anyone who is interested in trying bondage and spanking, and they’re often bundled in kits, like the Beginners’ Bondage Kit, so if you’re looking to get started and bring bondage into the bedroom, you have a selection of toys to play with.

The Fetish Fantasy range includes more ‘extreme’ toys – including sex furniture and strap ons, and the Sex & Mischief range is a mix of ‘beginners’ toys and some that are more experimental – such as their combination wrist and ankle spreader bar.

Tenga

Tenga is a brand that is really making a name for itself with innovative and stylish male sex toys. While brands like Fleshlight focus on realistic-looking masturbation sleeves (that look like mouths or vaginas), Tenga goes for innovative geometric designs that look more like ornaments than body parts.

Tenga masturbators are available either as ‘one use’ (although you can usually use these a few times) disposable products or as more substantial masturbators that can be used over and over again. The different textures create a huge range of different sensations, and – in our opinion – the products themselves are beautiful and eminently collectable!

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New ways to use your sex toys

New ways to use your sex toys

If you’ve got a wand, a bullet vibe, or a strap on, hopefully our tips on New ways to use your sex toys will get your mind racing with ideas! So, you’ve bought that amazing bullet vibrator and had a lot of fun with it, but you’re looking for a few new ways you can use it in the bedroom. That’s where we come in! Most sex toys can be used in a variety of different ways to provide a range of sensations, but we’re here to show you some new ways to use your sex toys.

A couple of general tips before we start: communication is the best skill to have in the bedroom, so when you’re trying out new uses for toys, ask your partner to give you lots of feedback. While we can give you some ideas, you never know you’ve hit the jackpot until you get those appreciative ‘ooh’s and ‘aah’s. And secondly – always make sure you read the instructions. While you’re usually fine to use dildos anally as well as vaginally, there are some toys which are designed for a specific use, and shouldn’t be put elsewhere: kegel balls, for instance, are usually designed for vaginal use rather than anal, so if you’re looking for an anal toy it’s often best to browse the ones that are specifically aimed at that.

With health and safety out of the way – let’s begin! Here are three popular sex toys, along with suggestions on ways you can use them that your partner won’t necessarily expect…

Wand toys

Believe it or not, the stories about wand massagers such as the Doxy are true – they can be used for massage as well as masturbation! If you’ve been turned on to the joys of a Doxy wand, it might be hard for you to think of using it as a massage tool rather than a sex toy, but trust us – it works!

If you’ve got a wand toy (and we believe every home should have one!) then pressing the end firmly into muscles can be incredibly relaxing. Begin on a low setting, then gradually get stronger.

Although they might not have the same effect on a man as on a woman, the heavy throbbing vibrations can still feel good to him, especially during the build up to sex. Why not begin by giving him a deep massage, pressing the wand into his muscles – thighs, back, bum – then gradually moving down between his legs. It’ll certainly give him something new to think about!

Bullet vibes

When you think of bullet vibrators your first thought is probably the clitoris. Compact and easy to use, bullet vibes are great for clitoral stimulation. No matter what position you’re in, it’s usually easy to hold a bullet against your most sensitive spots and add an extra tingle of pleasure.

But they can be used for other things too. Although the nerve endings on a penis aren’t as close together and numerous as they are on a clit, there are areas of the penis which are more sensitive than others. The frenulum is the area just below the glans – where the foreskin joins to the head. Using lube and a gentle touch with a bullet vibe you can gently stimulate this area, and give him a brand new sensation.

Don’t forget the nipples too – male nipples can be just as sensitive as female ones, and bullet vibes are often really handy for getting the precise stimulation to that area. If you’re looking for a long, slow build up, using bullet vibrators on your own or your partner’s nipples can be a fantastic way to tease during foreplay.

Strap-ons

If you read and enjoyed our list of top dominant blogs, and fancy having a go at taking control, there are plenty of things you can do that flip his expectations and keep him on his toes.

Asking him to wear a strap on might initially seem strange, but the aim of the game is to get him to ‘serve’ you, in the purest sense he can. Let him know that he’s in for a night of servicing you – focusing only on your pleasure. Then, when he wears a strap on to have sex with you, you’re getting everything you want while he longs to feel the pleasure himself.

If you don’t have a strap on, you can get the same effect by giving him one or two of your favourite toys. Whether it’s a dildo, a vibe, or a wand toy, teaching him to use them on you exactly as you like it can be powerfully erotic – and gives you the chance to take control.

So there you have it – three new ways to use your sex toys. Do you have any other suggestions? Please do share them in the comments!

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Sex toys through airport security

Can I take my sex toys through airport security?

One of the top things that caught our eye this week was a fantastic agony aunt question over on Kinkly.com. A worried reader wanted to take some sexy toys on holiday floggers, cuffs, that kind of thing, and asked if they would get into trouble with airport security.

We’ve heard of people getting worried about battery-operated toys – no one wants to have their bag searched only for security to pull out a rabbit vibrator in front of the whole terminal – but this was an intriguing twist.

The question? Am I likely to get in trouble for bringing BDSM equipment through airport security?

The wonderful Molly Moore gave her answer, and it’s eye-opening! Sure, she says, there might be problems with anything that’s seen as a weapon, but she and her partner have:

“travelled back and forth between the USA and the UK with a vast array of toys in our suitcase including floggers, crops, lockable wrist cuffs, rope, candles, a Wartenberg wheel, butt plugs and a selection of insertables, mainly glass dildos.”

If you’re planning a sexy stay abroad, visit the link above to see the rest of her advice.

Can I take vibrators through airport security?

Of course it’s not just bondage equipment and whips that you need to be aware of if you’re traveling to other countries. Anything that buzzes or vibrates is a no-no in your hand luggage. That’s not to say you can’t take toys with you (what better way to make the most of that special hotel room?) but you should always remove any batteries before packing, and ideally stow them in your checked luggage if you want to avoid embarassment at the gate.

If you’re taking mains-powered toys, there’s an extra step to consider: the plug sockets and voltage of the country you’re traveling to.

Toys sold in the UK are safe to use in our power outlets, which have a voltage of 230 and a frequency of 50 Hz, but depending on where you are in the world the voltage may range from 100 to 240 volts. Check the instructions on the toy (or toys!) you’re planning to bring, and the information on electrical supply for the country you’re going to. When you’ve got this info to hand, have a look at the advice given by the Electrical Safety Council (now called ‘Electrical Safety First’) about using electrical appliances abroad. They can help you work out whether you need to buy a plug adaptor and/or voltage converters and adaptors that you might want to buy, as well as how to use electrical appliances safely on your holiday.

The good news is that this advice applies no matter what you’re using – be it a rechargeable vibrator or a pair of hair straighteners! If you check the instructions and make sure you pack any converters you might need, your toys can come with you on holiday and ensure you make the most of a fun and sexy trip.

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Bionic Strap On

Is this the world’s first ‘feeling’ sex toy?

Have you ever played with a sex toy and wished that you could get some instant feedback from it? Maybe a strap on that you wish was attached to you by pleasure and response rather than just via a strap?  Well, the future might have just what you’re looking for.

Ambrosia vibe – a bionic strap on?

A new indiegogo campaign is making waves among the sex toy community. The company claims to have invented the world’s first ‘bionic’ strap on. Meaning it responds to touch and passes those sensations on to the person wearing it.

How does it work? Well, using pressure-sensitive technology, it ‘feels’ what’s happening to the toy (whether it’s being stroked slowly, squeezed, etc) and then transfers that ‘sensation’ to a vibrating unit at the base. In theory, the aim is that the pleasure felt by the wearer corresponds to what they are doing with the strapon.

So what would otherwise have been a simple ‘in-out’ operation becomes something more reciprocal – if you were wearing the strap on you’d be able to experience sensations corresponding to your movements as well as your partner feeling what you’re doing with the toy.

Do bionic strap ons already exist?

There have already been attempts to create strap ons that give the wearer some direct sexual pleasure. The Feeldoe is a classic example – with a bulb that goes inside the wearer, and attached vibrating bullet, it’s definitely aimed at giving pleasure for both people.

Other toys, like the Fetish Fantasy Elite, go even further and include a vibrating pad to provide clitoral stimulation to the wearer. The difference with both of these, of course, is that vibration is provided by a bullet or battery pack that’s controlled separately – the Ambrosia vibe aims to make the experience relate directly to stimulation of the dildo itself.

Would you use a bionic strap on?

Of course, even if you’ve always fancied swapping roles for a day, a bionic sex toy will never give you the exact sensations of having a real penis: buzzing against your clit can’t exactly equate to a blow job, no matter how hard someone’s sucking a strap on. The toy itself is going to rely heavily on whether the sensations provided by the vibrator are strong enough to provide orgasms as well as arousal.

What’s more, there are many people who enjoy strap on sex because it provides the kind of detached domination that they’re looking for at the time: no need to be distracted by your own pleasure when you’re intent on working your partner into a sexy state.

Still, whether you’re excited by the idea of a bionic strap on or turned off by the technology, we bet you’re at least a little bit intrigued, right?

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Is your partner jealous of your sex toys?

Is your partner jealous of your sex toys?

This month is Adult Sex Ed Month – check out the AdultSexEd website for lots of great discussion on how to have better sex. As a contribution to greater adult sex education, GoodDirtyWoman put forward an interesting article from her archives all about sex toy insecurity.

Some of you may know the feeling, or have been on the receiving end of a bit of appendage anxiety. A nervous worry that a sex toy counts as a replacement – a new and different feeling that might usurp what you can do with your own body. As GWDM explains, it’s the idea that “Gee, you’ve got that. Why do you need me?”

Cara Sutra took on the topic as well, with a fairly surprising revelation that some people may go one step further, and think of private play with sex toys as ‘cheating’. Well, you’re technically getting an orgasm from something other than your beau, so is there a worry that it might count as infidelity?

Both bloggers offer a conclusive ‘hell no!’

Sex toys are nothing to be jealous of

The main reason, of course, is that sex is about far more than just pressing the right buttons or stimulating the perfect spots. Sex with a partner is about sharing pleasure and intimacy – giving and receiving and mutual enjoyment. A sex toy can no more replace a person than it can have its own orgasm.

The old cliché about sex toys not being able to put the bins out is true – there’s a hell of a lot more to a partnership than just the ins-and-outs, so to speak. Although we’re often understandably more nervous about being replaced for sex, there are plenty of other partnership roles that we’re happy to outsource without worrying that we’re being replaced. If you traditionally look after your partner by cooking delicious romantic meals, you probably wouldn’t worry about being replaced if you both ordered a takeaway every now and then, or if you popped out for the evening and your partner microwaved a ready meal.

The truth is that sex toys can be used for a million different reasons: one person might use a toy because it brings them to climax really efficiently, or because when they’re on their own they need something more substantial than their own hand. Another might only use sex toys to enhance stimulation while they’re having sex with their partner. In this case, being jealous of the toy itself constitutes a really wasted opportunity: while you’re sulking about the extras in the bedroom, you could instead be finding ways to use it to blow your partner’s mind.

Male partners using sex toys?

Until very recently, sex toys were presented as a very female thing – from the Sex and the City girls passing round a rabbit vibrator to house parties where women would choose the latest from a range of bullet vibes and dildos, male sex toys rarely got a look in.

Now, of course, male sex toys are hitting the mainstream in a big way – not just couple’s toys but plugs and sheaths that men can use on their own. Does this mean the debate on sex toy use will go away? With more men embracing sex toys, and both people in a couple enjoying solo sessions with a vibrator or a masturbation sheath, perhaps there will be fewer insecurities from both sides. Whether you’re male or female, in a straight couple or a gay one, we’d love to know your thoughts – are you or your partner uncomfortable with toys, or do you enjoy the added dimension in your sex life?

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What are the best selling sex toys?

What are the best selling sex toys?

One of the best ways to decide which sex toy to buy is by looking at reviews and other customers’ experience. Obviously everyone is different, and there are individual preferences when it comes to power, size, and style. But we thought to help you decide we’d give you a run-down of the top five best selling sex toys on our site.

Our customers clearly have good taste – our top five is a showcase of some of the most beautiful and innovative sex toy design on the market. So without further ado, let’s begin the best selling sex toy countdown…

Number 5 – a stylish sex toy with perfect power

In at 5 – The Lelo Ora. When it comes to sex toys, Lelo is synonymous with style and quality. Today’s sex toys are a far cry from the buzzy, battery-laden jelly things that were on the market ten years ago, and it’s companies like Lelo that have helped to turn things around.

The Ora is a beautifully-designed oral sex simulator. Sweeps and swirls, as well as an intense power setting, help the Ora to recreate the sensation of oral sex.

Number 4 – king of the wand toys

At number 4 – it’s the Doxy Wand Massager. What’s so good about the Doxy? Well, as Lelo is a game-changing company in terms of design, Doxy is a game-changing company in terms of power. Their wand is the most powerful mains-operated wand on the market. Deep, rumbling vibrations controlled by simple buttons mean that this easy-to-use, intense toy is on almost everyone’s wish list.

Number 3 – a new kind of rabbit vibrator

Number 3 is the Lelo Soraya, and just one look at it is enough to tell you why. Not only is it stunningly beautiful – as all Lelo toys are – but it is also designed to hit just the right spots. A rabbit-style vibrator, the Soraya has a key difference that sets it apart from other similar toys: the clitoral stimulator is incredibly flexible, meaning you can position it so that it vibrates in just the right place for you.

Number 2 – a familiar name

At number two, just missing out on the very top spot, it’s The Doxy Wand massager again. No, your eyes aren’t decieving you – this is such a popular product that it appears in our top five twice – once on its own (for £69) and once as part of our promotional bundle, where you get the Doxy as well as a gorgeous glass dildo and some lube to get you going all for just £89. See? That’s why it’s on a lot of wish lists!

The number 1 best selling sex toy

And (drumroll please) the number one bestselling sex toy here at Belle de Soir is the We Vibe 4. A relatively new type of toy, the We Vibe is designed for couples to use during penetrative sex. The vibrations will not only stimulate you internally and externally, your partner will be able to feel them during penetration. A genuine couple’s experience designed to give equal pleasure to both of you.

It comes in pink or purple, and because it’s such a popular sex toy, we’re offering it in a special promotional vibrator bundle – you can get the We Vibe 4 as well as the amazing Euphoria G-spot vibrator (together worth more than £180) for just £109. So if you’re looking to treat yourself, you you can choose the best selling sex toy on Belle de Soir, knowing you’re in very good company!

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Waterproof sex toys

Waterproof sex toys or splashproof sex toys?

One of the top places to find some alone time for masturbation is the bathroom. Whether it’s the sensual pleasure of slipping into a warm bath, or the fact that you can lock the door and shut out everyone else, bathroom masturbation is one of the best ways to relax.

So which toys can you safely take into the bathroom?…………

Splashproof sex toys

Most sex toys are splashproof – this means that you’re OK to get them a bit wet but they shouldn’t be taken into the bath or the shower. Splashproof sex toys should be cleaned with a damp cloth, and you need to make sure that you don’t fully submerge them.

This is usually because the design of the toy isn’t fully sealed – water can get through cracks into battery compartments or underneath the material. These toys – although great fun in the bedroom – shouldn’t be taken into the bath.

Waterproof sex toys

These toys (sometimes referred to as ‘submergible’) are completely safe to use in water. The design of the toy means that it’s sealed so water won’t get in and destroy the inside of the toy. You can bring them into the bath or shower either with your partner, or to make the most of some time on your own.

The Lelo Gigi 2 is not only fully waterproof (meaning you can put it right in the bath as well as just get it wet) but it’s also very quiet – so you shouldn’t get anyone knocking on the bathroom door!

Best bath sex toys

If you’re a fan of masturbation in the bath or shower, the toys you can rely on are those without electric or moving parts. Glass dildos, for instance, are obviously fine to use in water.

However, be careful if you’re using a silicone toy in the bath. Water-based lube tends to wash away easily so most people prefer to use a silicone-based lube in the bath or shower. But silicone-based lube can cause damage to silicone toys, so be careful when you’re mixing and matching!

Of course, if you’re looking for something specifically designed for use in the bath and shower, then you might want to check out the Ultrastud Soft Mount – it comes with a suction cup so it can be mounted in your favourite place.

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Not all toys are created equal: a guide to choosing cock rings

Not all toys are created equal: a guide to choosing cock rings

If you’re looking for something to use with your partner, a cock ring can be a fantastic choice. It’s a classic couple’s sex toy that will give both of you sensations to enhance your pleasure.

The right kind will lightly squeeze him at the base of his cock (and balls, depending on how you choose to use it), and the right addition can provide extra stimulation for you.

There are a number of different types of cock ring, and this guide should give you an overview so you can help choose the one that suits you both best.

Simple cock rings

The most basic cock rings consist of a circle of stretchy material which sits either at the base of the penis, or around the penis and balls. The ring squeezes gently, giving a harder erection and often more intense orgasms for him.

The Screaming O pack comes with rings in three sizes, which means you can pick and choose depending on how tight your partner wants the ring to be.

Vibrating cock rings

Most of the cock rings you’ll find here on Belle de Soir vibrate ・ and there’s a good reason for that! When worn at the base of the cock, a vibrating ring such as the Ovo Puriel will stimulate your clitoris with each thrust. Many people choose to use cock rings for more grinding sex – staying close to each other to maximise the clitoral stimulation from the vibe. These cock rings usually come with simple buttons on the toy itself so you can turn on the powerful vibrations easily.

If you’re looking for something a bit more flexible, you can get remote control cock rings like the Lelo Oden 2. This means you don’t have to use controls on the toy itself – the control unit can sit on your bedside table, or in your hand, so you can adjust the vibrations quickly and easily.

Does cock ring shape matter?

Absolutely! After all, everyone’s slightly different and we all respond differently to stimulation. If you want clitoral stimulation as well as the squeeze of the ring itself, one of the key things to look at is the shape of the vibrating section.

Most cock rings come with horizontal bullet vibes either attached, which are removable if you want to use them separately (like the Hero remote control cock ring) or built in, like the Lelo Tor. However you might prefer something that sits vertically on your clitoris like the Rocks Off range.

You can also choose between textured and un-textured, depending on what sensation you prefer on your clitoris.

Does cock ring size matter?

Not with most – cock rings made from silicon are usually very flexible. They stretch around the cock and squeeze to grip it, making them easy to put on and remove. This also means that they should fit most men simply – although as mentioned above if he’s after a stronger squeeze you might want to try one of the cock ring sets to test out different sensations.

We hope this guide has been useful to you! If you have any questions about choosing sex toys, or about a particular toy, please do let us know in the comments. And if you’re thinking of buying one, why not show this guide to your partner and ask him which cock ring he’d like to try?

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Choosing the right size sex toy

Choosing the right size sex toy

Ever looked at the range of sex toys available and wondered – how do I choose? Product reviews can be really helpful, but they can’t tell you exactly how something will feel to you personally…….

One of the most common questions when buying a new toy (especially if it’s your first!) is how to choose the right size. We all have different body shapes – internally as well as externally – so one person’s ‘ooh yes’ is another’s ‘oh no’.

Sizing sex toys don’t just guess!

Although we all have an idea of roughly what six inches looks like, if you’re picking your first toy it can help to use a ruler or tape measure to get a visual picture of what will arrive when you order.

Alongside the images, every toy on Belle De Soir has size descriptions – most typically length and width. If you click on the ‘information’ tab you can get sizing for all the products.

The length refers to the full length of the toy, and this might include the battery pack on the end (if it’s a rabbit style vibrator, for instance) or the base of the toy as well.

The width refers to the diameter. Some guys measure themselves by wrapping a tape measure around it and quoting their ‘girth’, which can often be hard to picture. The diameter, on the other hand, should be easier to visualise and will give you a good idea of the overall thickness.

Sex toy texture and size

It’s important to remember that the sex toy material can have an effect on which size is right for you.

More rigid toys such as glass dildos can feel larger because they don’t flex in the same way as softer rubber or silicone toys. If you’re keen to go for something big, but you’re relatively new to sex toys, you might want to try a large dildo in a more flexible material.

Testing sex toy sizes

If you’re still not sure about sex toy size, try a kit that’s put together with different toys in different lengths and thicknesses. This is especially helpful if you’re starting out with anal play ・ how do you know what will work best for you? Anal plug kits are a great place to start – you can begin with a narrower toy and experiment with different ones until you find something that fits you comfortably and stimulates all the right places.

If you’re planning on buying your first toy, try out the tips above and choose a sex toy that’s the right size for you. We’ll be answering more questions on the blog in coming weeks, so let us know if there are any other issues you’d like us to tackle.

If you’ve bought toys before, we’d love to know how you selected your first one ・ what was most important to you when you made your first ever purchase?