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Four lessons you never knew would make you better in bed
We learn a lot at school that we don’t always take forward in life – whether it’s an equation to help us calculate pi or an interpretation of a Shakespearian sonnet, quite a lot of what we’ve learned seems a bit… well… useless when you go out into the world.
But there are plenty of skills that you might have picked up when you were younger that can come in extraordinarily handy in the bedroom…
Modern Languages
We might all have struggled through “comment t’appelle tu?” in French lessons, but those people who took it a bit further have a huge advantage when it comes to sexy chat – especially if they’ve learnt one of the traditionally ‘sexy’ languages (such as Italian).
Whether your partner speaks a foreign language or not, whispering a few sexy-sounding things in their ear could get them right into the mood. If you can’t speak another language? Don’t worry – there’s always time to learn if you want to, and in the meantime here are three handy phrases that you can use to cheat:
Something romantic:
English: “I’m crazy for you” Spanish “Estoy loca por ti”
Something seductive:
English: “I want to see you naked” Italian “Mi piacerebbe da pazzi vederti nudo.”
Or something straight to the point:
English: “Your cock is so big” Japanese “Chinko ga ookii.”
Physical Education
OK, maybe this one’s cheating, because we all know that being fit and healthy can be a real bonus in the bedroom – better stamina, for a start, and the ability to stretch yourself into weird and wonderful new positions. But there can be even more benefits to certain physical activity that you may not have considered.
Yoga, for instance, is not only good for your core strength, stamina, and focus, it can also potentially help with sexual problems. A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2007 suggested that practising yoga could help those who suffer from premature ejaculation.
Extra curricular activities
Ever been in the scouts/guides? Well, those lessons in ropes and knots certainly come in handy when your partner is eager to be tied to your bed. Although Cosmopolitan magazine makes it sound easy to dominate someone using just silk scarves and a sexy voice, if you want to graduate onto bondage rope you need to know a knot or two.
While some of us spend a while learning how to get bondage knots just right, those with scouting or guiding experience are streaks ahead.
If you want to develop your own skills, it’s best to start with a good background to make sure you’re playing safely. This excellent free BDSM ebook, by Charlie Hale, gives a good grounding in all kinds of BDSM, including bondage, and there’s a list of recommendations for further reading if you want to be top of the kinky class.
Music lessons
Not only can you impress your partner with a particularly good solo performance, your skills as a musician can come in very handy in the bedroom.
If you play a wind instrument, like the flute or clarinet, you’ve probably learned to be very controlled with your breathing – a definite bonus if you’re giving oral sex. If your instrument is something like the piano or guitar – one that requires quick fingers and skilled hands, then you’re at an advantage when using your hands to make your partner come.
Want to pick up this skill? There are a million and one music tutorials on the web, and this Lifehacker article gives you a great overview of how to get started. The most important thing is to make sure you pick an instrument you love – after all, it’s not sexy if you’re not enjoying it!
So there we have it – four lessons that are pretty damn useful in bed. How did you score? And are there any other tricks you’ve picked up that you reckon could be handy in the bedroom?